I want to get serious and really talk about making changes in your life that will benefit you and not hinder your progress.
We have all been there, thinking our lives will never change and settling for what we have.
We have spent years and years of our lives doing the same things and having the same experiences over and over and getting no where…..sound familiar?
Now is the time to make some changes.
You are worth it
Your life is worth it
And the people in your life are worth it too
Let’s face it ladies, it all starts with our emotional status. That is typically what is blocking us from moving forward.
“Emotional regulation” is a person’s ability to effectively MANAGE and RESPOND to an emotional experience.
So if we are not in control of our emotions, we will continue to create experiences that don’t serve us.
Recognizing and understanding that you are not managing your emotions is one thing, but actually doing something about it is another.
I have heard people say things like, “I am just an emotional person” or “I suffer with anxiety” or I have PTSD….. all of these comments just give you the right to not address what is holding you back.
I am not saying that these things are not real……they most certainly are. And they are the reason that you have emotional wounds and past traumas and current triggers in your life.
It took experiences to get you here and it will take experiences to get you to where you want to be.
IT IS TIME TO MAKE SOME CHANGES
There is something called neuroplasticity
Which is (our nervous system's ability to be flexible, change and adapt).
Definition:
“Brain plasticity, also known as neuroplasticity, is a term that refers to the brain's ability to change and adapt as a result of experience.”
Over all of the years of our lives, we have had experiences that have caused our nervous system to become inflexible.
When there is fear, we hide or retreat or fight back but that limits our ability to see beyond what was happening.
When we have been in toxic relationships, that also narrows your ability to see possibility because you are in a constant fight, flight or freeze mode.
All of the things in your life that have caused emotional wounds are the things that contributed to your nervous system being inflexible.
Being able to adapt and change is so important to your growth.
I totally get it. You are probably thinking that sometimes you feel like you can’t even breathe …. so how can you possibly adapt or change?
Let’s go back to your experiences. If in the past you have had bad experiences, unhealthy experiences or just experiences that you pushed down and tried to never feel again…..these will have contributed to your nervous system health.
Safety is the first step. Let’s think about this for a minute, in all of your past experiences, did you feel safe?
Did you feel safe enough to express your feelings without being criticized?
Or being told that your opinion doesn’t matter or a host of other things that were painful to you?
My guess is that you did not feel safe.
Which leads to my next question, were you in a safe environment?
Were you living in an environment where you were in control of your outcomes? Your income? Or just you making decisions that directly affected your life ?
And lastly, were you living on purpose? Did you or do you have purpose in your life ?
Now is the time to create NEW experiences in your life and for your life.
You have the power to do that.
You have always had the power ….you just didn’t know it.
Take a look at your life specifically.
Really look at what happened in your past.
You clearly survived it all
But my guess is that you are living in your past experience.
We do that for a few reasons.
We can’t see a way past it.
We use it to gain attention that we are so desperate for.
It just feels safer to stay stuck rather than take a risk and move outside of it and into a new space.
Are you ready to really make some changes in your life and finally feel good, finally feel joy and reach your goals?
It is time to create new experiences,
but feeling safe doing it… is what was missing before….right?
So how can we create new experiences, feel safe and do it with purpose in our life?
You might have some work to do to get into a safe environment.
Are you in control of your income?
Your outcomes?
Your decisions?
Do you feel safe and comfortable with the people in your life?
Safe to express your opinions?
Safe to share personal feelings without being judged?
Do you have purpose in your life?
What lights you up?
What gets you out of bed?
Do you feel fulfilled helping others?
You can’t wait around for other people to make you happy.
Now is the time to make some changes.
Look at who you are living with
Who you surround yourself with
How you are living
We are all survivors and we all need to Heal and Restore.
Your main goal should be to heal and restore your life so that you can have safe relationships/environments/and purpose in your life.
Being connected with other people, who feel safe and are there for is how you heal, grow and restore your life.
Creating new neural pathways, new habits and new patterns that enhance your life is how you start the process.
So if you want help starting this process of change, healing and success, please reach out to me at karen@karenmessina.com
I offer a free confidential consultation where we can chat about you and start the ball rolling to your successful future.